I have seen nearly EVERY marriage of a certain group of people fail. I
hope that I do not sound reprobate for saying this, but I believe that
the contemporary fundamentalist Christian (or claimed to be) church has
done more to destroy marriage as God intended it than the world has.
They have packaged marriage up into rules that go counter to God’s ways
and they judge the appearance of the marriage without taking interest
in the truth of what is really happening. They do not check up to see
if a spouse is being abused, either physically or emotionally. They
just look at the appearance. If you don’t show up at church all
bruised, then you must be OK. And heaven forbid you should go to a
counselor and tell him what’s wrong. Then you are disloyal. No, you are
supposed to take it all and love Jesus and pray and let God fix it.
Right. As Dr. Phil would say, “So how’s that working for you?”
It is not our Father that put the rules there, it is the
church. In fact, what did Jesus say when his disciples were rolling the
wheat in their hands and eating the grains on a Sabbath? He told those
who complained, “God did not make man for the Sabbath, but the Sabbath
for man.” God did not make us for marriage, He made marriage for US.
Read Malachi in context:
13 "This is another thing you do: you cover the altar of the LORD with
tears, with weeping and with groaning, because He no longer regards the
offering or accepts it with favor from your hand.
14 "Yet you say, ‘For what reason?’ Because the LORD has been a witness
between you and the wife of your youth, against whom you have dealt
treacherously, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant.
15 "But not one has done so who has a remnant of the Spirit. And what
did that one do while he was seeking a godly offspring? Take heed then
to your spirit, and let no one deal treacherously against the wife of
16 "For I hate divorce," says the LORD, the God of Israel, "and him who
covers his garment with wrong," says the LORD of hosts. "So take heed
to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously."
17 You have wearied the LORD with your words. Yet you say, "How have we
wearied Him?" In that you say, "Everyone who does evil is good in the
sight of the LORD, and He delights in them," or, "Where is the God of
He was talking about men who would marry and then treat their wives
unjustly, like slaves,
then send them away when they no longer cared
for them. That has little to do with what goes on in the church today.
Husbands don’t divorce their wives, they keep them and abuse them
emotionally and spiritually. Sometimes it is the wives who deal
reacherously with their husbands. They don’t meet their needs, but
since they don’t divorce them, the church turns a blind eye. It is this
treacherous dealing that He complains against. This verse has been
abused over and over, as have many scriptures about divorce. I can
guarantee you this: God is far more interested in PEOPLE than rules.
About the disciples in the field on the Sabbath: Do you know why Jesus
allowed them to break the Sabbath? Was it to make a point to the
Pharisees? Was he trying to prove something? I bet you’ve heard that
before. Well, I contend that this is the real reason that he had them
eat the wheat on the Sabbath like that. Are you ready? It’s really very
Jesus let them eat the wheat because they were hungry.
Isn’t that simple? He could have made bread from stones, sure… but why
do that when the wheat that they needed was right at hand? Jesus used
the example of David eating the showbread from the altar as an example
where Father cares for our needs more than He does for the rules. He
made the rules to SERVE us, not to destroy us. And He only made the
rules because we asked him to. Re-read Exodus where the children of
Israel are at the foot of Mount Sinai. God wanted to talk to them ALL.
It is the children of Israel that implored Moses to go to the mountain,
get a bunch of rules, and then come and tell them.
Once again, I am rambling. The whole point of scripture is this: God
made you to love you and for you to love Him. He wants everything that
we do to be driven, controlled, and motivated by that love. Period. No
rules, only love. Love makes the “rules”. OH, and like the apostle John said… “God